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The etiquette of correcting others

I overheard the following conversation at our workplace:

Woman 1: I think I need a cleaning lady in the house.
Woman 2: If I have extra money I will definitely call a cleaning service.
Woman 1: I shouldn’t have said cleaning lady, it is probably sexist. I should have said cleaning service.

You have to admit how intelligent both women are. I am fortunate to be working in such an open minded environment.

This story reminds me of Prophet Muhammad’s grandsons, Al-Hassan and Al-Hussain. While both were performing Wudu’ they noticed an old man performing Wudu’ incorrectly. Because of their young age they thought it might be insulting to the old man to be corrected in public and may be out of respect to older people. They went to the old man and said, “My brother and I disagree over who amongst us performs wudu’ the best. Would you mind watching us make wudu’ and be the judge to see which one of us indeed performs wudu’ more correctly? Could you please correct us wherever we are wrong?” The man watched carefully trying to judge who is better. In the end he understood what was going on and said “By Allah, I did not know how to perform wudu’ before this. You have both taught me how to do it correctly.”

Knowledge is power. We should use this power for good. If we find someone wrong there is always a good way to correct this person. Insulting is not one of them. We are not supposed to think alike. Can you imagine if we all do? There is a reason God created us this way. We are not robots. One can really learn more from the mistakes of others.


9 thoughts on “The etiquette of correcting others

  1. المشكلة بالعالم المريضة نفسيااللي ما بتحس بقيمة حالها غير لما تلاقي فرصة لاهانة الآخر واحسن فرصة انك تصحح له اخطاءه وتطلعه ما بفهم. وما اكثرهم هالعالم!!!!


    1. في فيديو عجبني لواحد امريكي عايش بالأردن. بيحكي نفس اللي بتقوليه. بالأردن الكل بيفهم. :)ـ

      بس طبعا الآخر اللي بتحكي عنه وبده فرصه يهين طبعا لازم يتوقف عن حده


  2. أشكرك لما كتبت و أيضًا للمثال يا مالك
    لا يعحبني من يتشدق بتصحيح عيوب الناس ، هناك أسلوب + مكان و زمان لذلك
    لست فخورًا كثيرًا بهذا و لكني أحيانًا كثيرة أسأل شخصًا عن شيء أعلم إجابته أو أخطأ متعمدًا لأرى ردة الفعل عنده لتصرفي / سؤالي


    1. نعم “يتشدق” اختيار موفق جدا لهذه الحاله
      وصحيح ايضا ان هناك مكان وليس فقط زمان مناسب للتصحيح
      شكرا على التعليق


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