Business · Career · Lifestyle

Listening to the inner voice

Imagine the following scenario:
You lost your way while driving. You know you are lost because you have been driving forever and didn’t reach your destination. You do what all drivers do. You slow down, turn the radio off and if you have company, you shush them. You try to eliminate as much distraction as possible, so you can think clearly. But, sometimes slowing down doesn’t help. So, you stop to scout the area and collect your thoughts. When you stop you might look at a map, ask people for directions or think about what you should do next.

Unfortunately, slowing down, clearing your thoughts and even asking for help doesn’t work all the time. What if you reached an intersection and passersby give you different directions to your destination? Who would you listen to? What would you do then? You did everything you can do. You slowed down, you stopped to think and you asked for help. Alas, nothing helped and you still don’t know what road to take.

So, what do you do?

The multiple directions to the same destination might all be right. But definitely not all directions may fit you. Our journey in life has no ‘detailed’ road maps or manuals. A friend once lamented, after his divorce, that there is no manual for marriage. He complained that we are left on our own to figure out the most essential thing in life; making a family. Maybe, the reason there are no manuals or road maps, for our growth, is because what works for one doesn’t necessarily work for others.

Before taking a critical decision, whether it is changing a career or moving to a different city or getting a divorce, we think a lot about the consequences of our decision. When we are at lost we seek guidance. We ask around. We study and do our research about all the hypotheses related to our decision. Some people also solicit an answer by praying.

So, what do you do when your quest to find an answer fails? What do you do when you need to take a decisive decision but you simply have no clue what to do?

You take a chance. You listen to what your gut tells you. It is called instinct. Animals’ lives depend on it. Humans, unfortunately, rarely follow their instinct. Although, I believe, human’s instinct is more powerful than our logical sense.

If you feel the urge you need to take a particular decision, go for it. It is your trustworthy instinct taking over your brain. Listen and follow your inner voice!

Business · Journal · Lifestyle

Live and learn

giftcard2

Yesterday, I had an appointment with someone who wants to build a website for his project. He is an older man in his sixties and has a doctorate. We finished our meeting without having a definite answer whether we will work together or not. There are things that we both need to know before continuing work on the project. Anyway, when we were done, he gave me a gift card and said “it is a thank you gesture for your time. It is a ten dollar gift card to buy a cup of coffee.”

boss-leader

It was really a nice gesture from him. For me this small token of appreciation was a lesson on human relationship and communication. It was a lesson on how to conduct an interview and how to be a leader not a boss.

Life is full of lessons, good and bad. Unfortunately, many people let the bad experiences overpower the benefits of the good ones. Make the “live and learn” slogan a positive attitude.